The Two Things That Happen When We Talk

My brother Wayne and I strolled along one of my favorite places in the world—the San Antonio Riverwalk. As we walked, we talked, and, as we talked, we remembered.

Square dancing …

Mexican food …

Rooftop swimming pools …

And history …

Our history … together.

In recent visits with friends and family, I’ve noticed two things happening.

1)      Conversations connect me with my past. I’ve noted this in a previous post—being with fellow grads, I revive memories thought long forgotten. I spoke with my friend Michael about a disturbing memory; during middle school phys ed class, our coach whacked a kid.

When I recited the incident, Michael asked, “Were you in that class?”

I said, “If you remember that, then, yes, we were both in class together.”

We both remembered. We both talked.

Disturbing image.

Good conversation.

Those conversations affirm my past and verify my memories.

2)      Conversations strengthen my presence in community. As Wayne and I talked, we not only remembered our shared past, we built new memories and strengthened the already present bond between us. The time together strolling on the Riverwalk and down memory lane made the present all the more enjoyable. It also affirmed I have a place and verified I am loved within a community.

I’m curious. What is the value you find in community in general and in Christian community in particular?


Fellowship at A Minute With John Maxwell

Top 3 Posts in Last 7 Days:

Do You Know the Number One Rule?

What Is Jesus Doing and Where Is He Doing It?

Do You Love People and Uses Things or Love Things and Use People?

You can find my novel, Dark Eyes, Deep Eyes, at:

WestBow Press

Barnes & Noble

“Dark Eyes, Deep Eyes” goes to San Antonio and meets Jessica, hostess at Rita’s On The River

If you enjoyed today’s post, consider subscribing. Each new post will come directly to your email inbox. In a typical week, I post two new articles. Scroll up and you’ll find the Email Subscription button at the bottom of the right-hand column.

About tnealtarver

I've traveled and spoken around the world but always love to come home. There I eat exceptional meals, drink coffee to my heart's content, and get loved like nowhere else on earth. I believe a community centered in Christ should be all that and so much more.
This entry was posted in Community and tagged , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink.

12 Responses to The Two Things That Happen When We Talk

  1. Kari Scare says:

    Christian community gives accountability. I find examples of how to live for Christ in my Christian community. People accept me for who I am, and they readily forgive my mistakes and failings. My Christian community allows me to see Christ at work regularly, and I have withdrawals if I am away from that group too much. Christian community is invaluable in my successful walk as a Christian.

  2. I love just being with people – sharing with them, relating to them, catching their eye and knowing we’re in this together. Reaching out in love and being loved in return. It’s what makes life wonderful. I love the Christian community, especially in small groups, for the things we can learn from each other and how we can help each other grow.

    • tnealtarver says:

      We were certainly designed to be connected to God and others. I like the small group experience as well. It’s those close friendships where you can talk through life’s celebrations and disappointments, where you are challenged to go deeper with Christ.

      • Kari Scare says:

        Interesting that it’s the small group experience that so many people seem to avoid when going through the struggles of life. We tend to try and hide them and pretend they don’t exist. How do we stop that from happening and truly depend on the close friendships and be challenged to go deeper TOGETHER with Christ instead of trying to survive alone?

      • tnealtarver says:

        I know for me, when I’m struggling with an issue, I want to hide and try to deal with it alone. I find no strength to overcome until I make the decision to speak with others about my personal struggles. I’ve noticed the fears vanish the moment I bring them out into the light by talking with others.

      • Kari Scare says:

        My experience is the same. Yet, when another struggle hits, guess what I do once again? Would love to find a way to help people, myself included, not automatically close up.

      • tnealtarver says:

        Yep. I know what you mean. Knowing more fruits and vegetables and less ice cream and candy doesn’t mean I’ll eat what’s right for me. Same with struggles and support.

      • Kari Scare says:

        Great way to put it! Still, I gotta try! On a different topic, I don’t think I’ve said anything to you yet but maybe I have… Anyway, would you be interested in writing a guest post for my blog?

      • tnealtarver says:

        Yes, I would be happy too. Email me the details at

  3. Pingback: 4 Benefits of a Healthy Community | A Curious Band of Others

  4. Pingback: Would You Talk To A Stranger? | A Curious Band of Others

  5. Pingback: 3 Steps to Connecting What You Know to What You Do | A Curious Band of Others

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s