“What a great game. Did you see it?”
“No, I didn’t.”
“Hey, did you see the Badger game last night?”
“No, I didn’t.”
“Wow! That was some game last night.”
“I wouldn’t know. I didn’t see it.”
Why not? Didn’t you want to see the first annual Big 10 Championship game?
I had plenty of want to…
…I actually like the Badgers when they aren’t playing TCU in the Rose Bowl.
…a local kid is a team captain. Good guy.
…I have even met the head coach Brett Bielema (however briefly and forgettable for him, I remember the moment).
I just didn’t have the means. We have no television reception at home.
Except for the want of a friend’s invitation, I would have watched the whole thing. Any friend’s invitation would have done the trick. Any friend at all!
But here’s something important to note.
I could have taken the initiative. I could have called a friend or two who would have said, “Sure. Come on over.”
That’s an important ownership issue I need to come to terms with. I didn’t call. I didn’t ask. I didn’t make the effort. I made other choices. I did—not my friends.
For the record, let me enumerate what I did and didn’t do.
1) I didn’t voice my desire to anyone. Well, I may have said something to Ellen, who couldn’t do anything about viewing the game and who, to be honest, had no interest in it anyway. At best, I mentioned it to her. At worst, I grumbled. Knowing me, I opted for “at worst.”
2) I didn’t pursue the options available to me. I had other options beyond a friend’s living room. I’ve gone to the local sports bar before. I could have Saturday night. I know the owner, play basketball with him during the week. He’d have gladly welcomed me to his establishment.
3) I chose to spend my time doing something else. In this case, I chose to watch a less-than-enjoyable video at home. I didn’t even watch something Ellen would have enjoyed.
4) I missed out. My choice led to an undesirable outcome—alone watching a poor movie as opposed to being with a friend swept up in the excitement of an instant classic.
In The Principle of the Path, Andy Stanley writes:
Direction—not intention—determines destination.
The direction you are currently traveling—relationally, financially, spiritually, and the list goes on and on—will determine where you end up in each of those respective arenas. This is true regardless of your goals, your dreams, your wishes, or your wants. The principle of the path trumps all those things. Your current direction will determine your destination.
I wanted to see the Badgers-Spartans game. I could have. I lacked neither the desire nor the means. But my decision determined my direction and my direction determined my destination—alone in the back room watching a movie I’d rather forget.
Question: What choice do you need to take responsibility for today?